How The Church Failed My Mother’s Mental Health

I recently had an opportunity to participate in a discussion about the state of mental health in the Black community. This discussion was geared to how mental health treatment is often supplemented with faith and religious platitudes. The duality of this discussion was just as much frustrating as it was introspective. Throughout the discussion, I […]

Empathy After a Crisis

In the past years a lot of people have been on an emotional roller-coaster. Whether it was the multiple shootings of blacks, LGBT, and cops, the political election, war, protest or just news of your fave celebrity dying or splitting with their partner, emotions have been elevated which means media (social and otherwise) has been intense. […]

Lessons From a Black Father to His Black Sons

It’s almost a given that as humans we will encounter challenges throughout our life that seem insurmountable. No matter how many times you fall, you must get up and move forward. If at first you don’t succeed pick yourself up and try again. Don’t put off for tomorrow what you can do today. It is […]

Expect Less; Appreciate More: The Importance of Managing Expectations

Expectations help and hurt others. It is important to know what you need from the people around you but that doesn’t mean that because they can’t meet your expectations that they either aren’t doing the best they can or that they don’t love you. There has to be some room for flexibility in what you […]

Vulnerability Confusion: Why aren’t black women being heard?

Over the past few months, it seems that every time black women felt criticized, dismissed or downright disrespected and voiced their concerns, instead of being supported by black men, they were again dismissed, criticized or downright disrespected. I’ve expressed this to a few black men I know, and it felt like every other conversation I’ve […]

Finding Friends After 30

Although many of us think we were good at it, making friends is usually an unintentional result of life situations. Not many went to school with a plan to meet new friends. As we get older that seems to be the only way to make new friendships. It is a struggle after 30 because we rarely find ourselves in new situations where everyone can bond over shared experiences. Read more about Finding Friends After 30