3 ways to Improve Your Relationship in 15 minutes

Some days you get so caught up in everything else going on in your world, you forget to invest in your relationship. This does not make you a horrible person, just human. Often, time is the excuse people use for not doing something that is good for them. If today is one of those days or if it has been a string of days and you want to get back on track, try these 3 tips that will only take you 15 minutes. Don’t think this is possible? Watch.

1. 5 Minutes for You

You may be wondering why the first thing on the list is about you or you may already know where this is going and just need a reminder. You CANNOT give your best in your relationship if you are not taking care of yourself. Take the first 5 minutes to do a little self- care. It has been proven that we are better at helping others once we have helped ourselves. Taking 5 minutes to do something nice for yourself will put you in a better mood and gives you the necessary energy to invest in others. This is why the first thing you should do is get yourself in a pleasant relaxed mood. Here are a few options.

Deep breathing, facial, paint your nails, meditate/pray, stretch, listen and/or dance to your favorite song, read, take a 5 minute stroll.

2. 5 Minutes for Them

This is the time to show your partner that you have been thinking about them. Spontaneous nice and unexpected acts will likely make your spouse feel good and add a smile to their face. Think about things you can do to help them relax and/or reduce stress.Plan a treat for your partner. Give your partner 5 minutes that is only about them. Since you have already taken care of yourself, you can give without the expectation of reciprocation. Here are some ideas of nice gestures you can do for your partner.

Series of sweet text messages, handwritten note in their lunch or next to bathroom sink, massage (head, shoulders, hands, or feet), complete a chore that’s normally on their plate.

3. 5 Minutes for Both

Now that each of you have gotten much needed care, time to do something together.  Spending time focusing on each other is the best way to reconnect. Spend time catching up with each other without technology. That’s right! Make sure to turn off or put away any technology and give all of your attention to your partner. Here are few suggestions and if you would like more ideas, click here to get 10 intimate acts other than intercourse delivered to your inbox.

Play a quick card game, answer some get to know you questions, cuddle, send sexy texts, compliment each other.

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That’s it! In just 15 minutes you have shown up in your relationship. You have made it a priority and found the time to invest. You can have a real impact if these 3 things are done regularly. If you don’t think it will make a difference, try it for a week and report back! Let us know how you invest in your relationship.


Post Author: Eboni Harris

Eboni Harris is a relationship therapist and Founder/Editor-in-Chief of Room for Relations and host of Room for Relations: Sex and Relationship Podcast. Through her education she has learned the skills and techniques to help individuals and couple love better, stronger and longer. Through life she has learned that taking care of yourself is the best thing you can do for you and the ones you love. Her goal is to help adults communicate with clarity and honesty, love with passion and intention and teach their offspring (little ones) the value of boundaries, compassion and trust.